My insecurities are such that even if a guy flat-out told me he’s head over heels in love with me, I’d still be sitting there thinking, “Yeah, but is he really?”
Because words are nice and all, but sometimes they don’t cut it. You just need to see it in the way he looks at you, the way he acts when he’s around you, and all those tiny, unspoken gestures that scream, “You’re my everything.”
If you’ve been wondering whether your partner is actually as into you as he says or he’s saying it just because you want to hear it, don’t worry—I’ve got you.
Here are some definite signs that shout “he loves you!” loud and clear.
1. He remembers the little things
“Oh, you mentioned 2 months ago that you prefer oat milk in your lattes? Done.”
If he’s listening that closely, it’s not just because he enjoys your anecdotes about coffee. When someone adores you, they commit little details to memory like they’re building a mental scrapbook of everything YOU.
2. He always makes time for you
No matter how packed his schedule is, he somehow makes you a priority. Whether it’s for a quick FaceTime catch-up or an impromptu ice cream run, he’s there. Because when a guy really cares, he’ll find the time—for you.
3. He texts you just because
A random “how’s your day going?” or a meme that reminds him of you? These little check-ins might seem casual, but trust us, it’s his way of letting you know he’s thinking about you. 😏 Bonus points if he texts you “good morning” first thing!
4. He acts like a total dork around you
Yep, love can make even the coolest guys act goofy. If he’s totally unfiltered or pulling silly faces just to make you laugh, he’s comfortable around you. And that’s a huge deal.
5. Your happiness is his priority
Did he run across town to get you snacks when you ran out of chocolate? Or binge-watch your fave reality show, even though we both know he’s not a fan? 👀 When he goes out of his way to make you happy, it’s because he values seeing you smile.
6. He Matches Your Weird
If he starts sending you memes that perfectly cater to your bizarre sense of humor, game over. This is your person. (Seriously, if someone embraces your obsession with videos of baby goats in pajamas, they’re a keeper!)
7. He Can’t Stop Smiling Around You
Ever catch him looking at you like you’re the last piece of pizza at a party? Whether you’re binge-watching your favorite show or having a ridiculous debate about which fries are superior (waffle fries, obviously), that goofy, uncontrollable smile says it all.
8. Does He Look at You Like THAT?
You know the look. That soft-eyed, “wow, how did I get so lucky?” kind of look. You’ll catch it when you’re least expecting it… and it’ll probably make your heart melt faster than butter on hot toast.
9. He’s all about the eye contact
Eye contact isn’t just a physical thing; it’s emotional too. If he’s looking straight into your eyes during conversations (and not at his phone 👎), that kind of connection is a sign he’s deeply invested.
10. He’s protective, but not controlling
Does he help you with little things, like making sure you get home safe after a night out? Or check in when he knows you’re having a tough day? That’s love, baby. But note the fine line here; real love = protective, not possessive.
11. He talks about the future
If he’s tossing out ideas like “We should check out this restaurant together!” or “You have to come to my cousin’s wedding,” he’s picturing you in his life long-term. Cue all the warm fuzzies!
12. He supports your passions
Whether you’re starting a blog, working late nights, or training for a marathon, he’s in your corner, cheering you on. Love looks a lot like standing behind your dreams and being your number-one fan.
(Bonus points if he stays awake late to brainstorm ideas or volunteers to bring snacks to your practice sessions!)
13. He opens up to you
Guys aren’t always the best at spilling their feelings. But if he lets you in on his fears, hopes, or embarrassing middle school stories (cringe!), it’s because he trusts you with every part of him—even the awkward bits.
14. He introduces you to “the people”
You know the ones. His best friends. His family. His work buddies. If he’s bringing you into his circle, it’s his way of saying, you’re important, and I want everyone to know it.
15. He Makes Space for You in His Life
Whether it’s suggesting you watch his favorite childhood movie together or giving you his last french fry (a massive sacrifice, by the way 😅), he’s saying, “You matter to me.”
16. He listens (like, really listens)
Not the half-nod-while-watching-TV kind of listening. We’re talking about making eye contact, asking follow-up questions, and actually remembering what you said. Someone get this guy some brownie points.
17. He shows up during the not-so-fun times
Love isn’t all candlelight dinners and sunsets. If he’s there for you when you’re sick, stressed, or ugly-crying over a breakup scene in a movie, it’s because he’s in it for the real stuff—not just the highlight reel.
18. He makes you feel safe
This isn’t just about physical safety (although feeling secure in his hugs is 😘). It’s about emotional safety too. Can you be your authentic self around him? Does he make you feel seen and valued? Then, girl, he’s likely in love territory.
19. His actions match his words
Words are great (“I care about you”), but actions never lie. Does he back up his sweet talk by actually showing he cares? Actions like consistency, keeping promises, and being thoughtful all scream the big L-O-V-E.
20. He Compliments You Without a Reason
Sure, it’s super sweet when he says you look gorgeous on date night. But if he tells you that you’re cute when you’re stuffing your face with nachos or that he admires how passionate you are during your board game smackdowns? That’s love, baby.
21. He loves spending time with you—even if it’s doing “nothing”
If he’s just as happy chilling on the couch watching reruns as he is going out to a fancy dinner, it shows he doesn’t need the bells and whistles. He enjoys the simple stuff because he genuinely enjoys you.
22. He Doesn’t Care About Your “Bad Hair Days”
Caught him staring and smiling even when you’re rocking your messy bun and sweatpants combo for the third day in a row? That’s a man who’s in it for more than just appearances.
23. He’s Always Thinking of You
Random texts like “saw this and thought of you” are a HUGE sign. Maybe it’s a song, a TikTok, or just a photo of a dog wearing sunglasses. Whatever it is, it’s proof that you’re on his mind even when you’re not together.
