Talking to your crush is like trying to parallel park with a crowd watching. Your hands get sweaty, your brain forgets English, and suddenly “Hey” feels like the lamest word in the world.
Been there, done that, and overanalyzed the whole convo at 2 a.m. later.
But the truth is, it doesn’t have to feel that way. You don’t need a 10-step battle plan or Shakespeare-level lines. You just need to know how to show up, vibe, and let them see how much of a catch you really are.
And that is exactly what I’ll talk about in this post. So, grab your confidence (or fake it, I won’t judge), and…
let’s turn this crush convo into the start of your next big love story!
1. Start With a Chill “Hey” or “Hi”
A simple “Hey” or “Hi” is low-key, and casual, and leaves room for them to respond however they want. In fact, you can pair it with a little context if you’ve got one. Like, “Hey, I just saw your story—what’s the name of that café? Looks cute!”
And please, for the love of texts, no “Hiiiiiiii.” We’re aiming for approachable, not desperate.
2. Compliment? Yes. But Keep It Real
Flattery works but only if it doesn’t sound copy-pasted from Pinterest quotes. So, be genuine and focus on something unique about them.
For example, if they posted a killer outfit, say, “Your style is fire—teach me your ways.”
3. Ask Open-Ended Questions, Not Just “Wyd?”
If your go-to is “Wyd?” or “Sup?” we need to talk. That’s convo kryptonite, babe.
Ask something that actually makes them think and respond. Like, “If you could time-travel to one year, which one would it be and why?” This keeps the convo flowing because they have to say more than “Nothing” or “Nm.”
4. Drop a Funny One-Liner to Break the Ice
The goal here isn’t to land a Netflix comedy special but to make them smile and see you as someone fun to talk to. Keep it light, keep it clever, and stay true to your humor style.
5. Be Confident, Not Cocky
Confidence? Sexy. Arrogance? Total turn-off.
For example, instead of saying, “I’m the best at [random skill],” go with, “Oh, I’m decent at [skill]. Wanna see if I can beat you?” It’s playful, self-assured, and keeps the convo flirty.
6. Find a Shared Interest and Run With It
Finding common ground is your golden ticket to keeping the convo alive. Did they mention a love for music, movies, or a sport? Dive into it!
But hey, don’t fake it. If they’re into something you don’t know, ask about it instead. Curiosity is just as charming as a shared obsession!
7. Be Playful but Not Over-The-Top
Throw in some light teasing, but keep it fun, not mean. Like, “Oh, so you’re one of those people who put pineapple on pizza?” If you’re worried about crossing the line, just stick to universal stuff (like food debates or movie opinions).
8. Let Them Talk About Themselves (People Love That)
Ask them about their hobbies, their weekend plans, or that random thing they posted. “Wait, you went skydiving? Tell me everything—was it terrifying or amazing?”
When they respond, actually listen. Ask follow-up questions, show interest, and let the convo flow naturally.
9. Act Chill, Even if Your Brain’s Screaming
I know, I know. Your inner monologue is going full-on chaos mode: “OMG, they replied!! What do I say next?! Do they like me back?!”
But here’s the thing: freaking out doesn’t help. Because crushes are like cats—they sense desperation. So, act chill and they’ll gravitate toward you.
10. Don’t Morph Into Someone You’re Not
If you’re pretending to be someone else to impress them, stop right now. You’re amazing as you are, quirks and all. If they’re into you, it’ll be because of who you are—not some curated version.
So, don’t act like you know every Marvel movie if you’ve only seen one. Honesty > trying too hard.
11. Avoid Stalking Their Instagram for Convo Starters
It’s tempting to pull a Sherlock Holmes and dig for convo material on Instagram at 2 AM, but it’s not worth the risk.
Instead, I say, you keep it current. If they posted something recently, sure, use that as a natural jumping-off point. But don’t bring up random stuff related to their old posts. That’s not cute—it’s creepy.
12. If You’re Texting, Don’t Send Novels
No one opens a text hoping to read the next chapter of War and Peace. Keep your messages short, sweet, and easy to reply to.
And please, no over-explaining or spiraling.
13. Also, Don’t Overdo Emojis
A well-placed 😂, 😏, or ❤️ can add some spice to your messages, but if your texts start looking like a kindergarten art project, it’s time to chill.
For example, “You’re so funny 😂” works. But “OMG YOU’RE SO FUNNY 😂🔥😂🤣🔥💀🙌” is… A LOT.
14. Show Interest but Don’t Come on Too Strong
You want to seem interested, not obsessed. Ask questions about them, react to their stories, and engage in convos—but don’t overdo it. You don’t need to reply to every single post or message them all the time.
15. Keep Your Responses Timely, but Don’t Camp by Your Phone
We all know the urge to reply instantly when your crush texts back but hold up. Take a second, breathe, and craft a thoughtful response instead of panic-typing “Haha yeah same.”
That said, also don’t wait so long that they think you’re uninterested!
16. Don’t Roast Them (Yet)
Light teasing is fun, but don’t go full roast session on someone you barely know.
“Oh, you’ve never seen The Office? That’s wild,” is playful. But, “You’ve never seen The Office? Wow, that’s tragic,” might land wrong.
Save it for when you’re closer and know they can handle it.
17. Casually Ask for Their Opinion on Random Stuff
People love sharing their opinions. Whether it’s about movies, music, or pineapple on pizza, asking them what they think is a great way to spark a convo.
For example: “Hot take—do you think Marvel movies are overrated, or am I just grumpy?” or “Okay, serious question: tacos or burgers? Choose wisely.”
These random, low-pressure questions are fun and they give you a chance to banter back and forth!
18. Avoid Dry Convos Like “What’s Your Favorite Color?”
Save the basic stuff for when you’re already vibing. For now, aim for questions that make them laugh or think.
Like, “What’s a random thing you’re obsessed with right now?” or “What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever tried?” These kinds of questions spark interesting responses.
19. Stay Away From Pickup Lines
Unless you’re joking, ditch the cheesy pickup lines. They might have been cute in 2012, but now? Cringe city!
And honestly, I believe being genuine is way more effective than corny one-liners. (TRUST ME.)
20. Be Kind but Don’t Suck Up
Kindness? Always a win.
But there’s a fine line between being sweet and being a total suck-up. Compliment them, show interest, and be thoughtful—but don’t agree with everything they say just to please them.
21. Make Eye Contact if It’s in Person (Not Creepy Though)
Eye contact is a power move—but let’s not turn it into a staring contest. Lock eyes for a second or two when they’re talking, and then look away naturally. It shows you’re engaged and confident without making things awkward.
22. Be Spontaneous, Not Robotic
Ditch the mental script. If you’re overthinking every word, you’ll come off stiff and rehearsed. Conversations with your crush should feel natural, not like you’re presenting a PowerPoint.
So, say what’s on your mind (as long as it’s not wild) and let the convo flow.
23. Leave Them Wanting More
Here’s the golden rule: don’t let the convo drag on until you’re out of steam. End things on a high note, like, “I gotta run, but let’s pick this up later—this was fun!” or “Okay, don’t keep me waiting too long for your next hot take!”
Maintain that mystery queen energy and stay on their mind.
24. Don’t Stress—Just Shoot Your Shot!
At the end of the day, talking to your crush is just that—talking. Sure, it feels high-stakes, but stressing over every word won’t help.
What’s the worst that can happen? They’re not into it? Cool, their loss.
So, take a deep breath, hype yourself up, and just go for it. Trust me, girl, you’ve got this!
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