We all know that magical, sparkly beginning of any relationship—the honeymoon phase. You’re addicted to their laugh, their voice sends a shudder through your body, and their gaze makes your knees weak.
You know that kinda feeling where you’d rather text him than eat your pizza?
But here’s the truth—it might not last long. The initial spark is like a firework—beautiful and loud but gone in a second.
Unless you know how to keep your partner infatuated with you. Yup, you read that right.
You CAN keep that flame burning bright without turning into boring roommates (who wants to be that couple?). No matter how tricky it seems, it is possible, TRUST ME.
Today, I’ll share 16 tips that will help you keep your partner totally smitten by you. Scroll down to catch lightning in a bottle!
1. Surprise Attacks (The Good Kind!)
If you guys are already in a rut, it’s time to shake things up. You know, make his heart skip a beat again?
You can do a breakfast-in-bed to show your effort. Or get them something they wanted for a long time—maybe tickets to a concert or a basketball game.
Oh, and it doesn’t always have to be a big gesture. Catch them off guard with a surprise back hug or a little peck on the cheek.
Melts them every damn time, I’m tellin’ ya!
2. Explore Together.
I’m sure you’ve traveled and tried a good deal of new things with your bestie. Why not go out with your boo this time?
The best way to keep him thinking about you is to spend more time together. I say, explore the world together! Or if that’s a stretch for you, explore a new cafe.
Try new cuisines, visit farmer markets, and if the weather is way too nice, plan a little picnic or go hiking.
Create shared experiences, even if that means going out of your comfort zone. Because those are core memories, babe.
3. The Power of Touch.
Physical connection is as important as the emotional one. I’m not saying that you should jump in the sack right away (altho, there’s nothing wrong with that if both of you are ready).
But if you’re the slow-burn type, don’t block the physical aspect completely.
Sweet, little touches add more spark and leave him wanting more. You can gently squeeze his hand, or give him a warm hug after a tiring day.
A playful nudge, a soft forehead kiss, and a head-on-the-shoulder are just some ways to get the ball rolling.
4. Gratitude Is Sexy.
The one thing that we often forget in any relationship is to thank the person for existing. It not only shows how much you truly appreciate them but also reminds you why you fell in love with them in the first place.
So take a moment and say “Thank You” to your partner. Bonus points if you get creative and make them blush.
For instance, you can leave cute love notes or plan a date night to express your gratitude!
5. Cheer Them On, Loud and Proud!
We choose people who support us through thick and thin. It’s like fuel for the soul, you know?
So, be your partner’s number-one hype girl. Be enthusiastic when he feels the pressure. Remind him of how worthy and special he is. Reassure him that he can do this and everything will be fine.
Let him know you believe in him and I’m sure he’ll be hooked to you like a moth to the light.
6. Consistency Is Key.
Show up every day. That doesn’t mean you have to ditch work. If you’re busy and cannot meet, text him. Or better, call him!
Take the first step—it mustn’t be a guy’s burden. Consistency isn’t about monotony, but reliability. That you’re there, you’re thinking about them even if you’re miles apart.
Playing hard to get is okay, but don’t leave him hanging. Follow through on your promises and commitments.
And if you cannot show up due to some reason, always inform them at the earliest. It shows how much you care for their feelings.
7. Become His Safe Space
You don’t have to fix his problems. Read that again.
Being his safe space isn’t about giving unsolicited advice. Just be there when he needs to vent and rant along with him. Be his personal therapist, but way more chill and empathetic.
When he’s around you, he shouldn’t worry about being judged. Or about being misheard.
So, listen to him when he needs to talk. Make him feel understood and supported. And of course, help him sort out stuff when he asks.
8. Turn Conflicts Into Connections.
Every couple fights. But the difference lies in how they move forward.
Never hold grudges against your partner. Always sort out unresolved issues and express yourselves.
If conflicts show you how different you guys are, try to understand and respect each other’s uniqueness. Find a middle ground and learn to compromise.
So, instead of letting arguments tear you apart, see them as a chance to get to know each other better.
9. Pillow Talk
The best way to wrap up a day—whether it was good or bad—is to do a sweet pillow talk as you doze away in your man’s arms.
Conversations and cuddles—the sweetest combo ever! It brings you closer, improves intimacy, and connects you on a deeper level.
You can share your childhood memories, fears, vulnerabilities, and dreams. Even work your way out of conflicts!
So, put away your phones and tablets, snuggle up in bed, and open up.
10. Don’t Cling Like a Koala!
No matter how much we girls lovee to be clingy with our boyfriends, it’s also important to respect their personal space.
All of us have boundaries, and your man isn’t an exception. So, don’t drag him into things he doesn’t like. Don’t impose your interests on him too much.
Most importantly, if he’s not in the mood for sex, tell him that’s totally fine.
When you respect his boundaries, he’ll realize that you see and value him truly. And that’s the kind of foundation you’d want to build your relationship on.
11. Me Time Magic.
Talking about boundaries, it’s equally important that you respect yours. You’re amazing and you should stay just the way you are.
You don’t have to spend every second with your partner—that might actually dwindle down his infatuation for you. Show him you have life outside your relationship and that you’re not completely dependent on him.
Go about your work and hobbies like you used to—that is the person your partner fell in love with.
12. Guy Time Recharge.
Just like you need your girls, your partner needs his gang. So, you don’t have to be jealous if he likes to hang out with them every other day.
Plus, being glued together will be suffocating for your relationship as well. Let him have his own adventures with his bros—video games, boys’ trips, or a night out.
It will also show that you’re secure and confident in your relationship.
13. Keep the Physical Spark Sizzling.
Physical intimacy is key to a healthy love life. So, don’t be afraid to make the first move.
You can spice things up in the bedroom—try out each other’s kinks and fetishes. Of course, make sure both of you are completely comfortable first.
And don’t limit your romance to just bed. Level up your game, create a sex bucket list, and don’t hesitate to explore!
14. No Nitpicking. Put down That Microscope.
Nobody’s perfect—everyone has flaws and annoying habits. So, stop pointing them out. That’s a major buzzkill.
Rather, focus on his amazing qualities—what makes him unique and why you love him. You need to see the glass half-full in order to build a healthy relationship—be it with anyone.
So the next time he gets on your nerves, take a moment and calm yourself down. Remind yourself that he is human, just like you, and think about the positive aspects of your partner.
15. Leave Him Wanting More
The best way to attract a guy’s attention and keep him hooked is by creating a sense of intrigue. Build excitement and leave him wanting more (of you).
For starters, limit your availability. I’m not saying that you ghost him or go AWOL (because as I said before, consistency is key). But maintain your individuality and don’t spend all your time with him.
Unpredictability and playful teasing are some other tricks to make a guy curious about you.
16. Dress to Impress
Be confident of your body and prepare outfits that accentuate it. Find your style and tailor it to the occasion—coffee date, candlelight dinner, hiking, etc.
Remember, it’s not just about looking good but feeling good. So, pick something comfortable yet elegant. And I’m sure he’ll appreciate your effort.
