We’ve all been there before: pining over an ex, trying to figure out how to make him fall in love again after a breakup. Let’s just say you’re in luck!
You’re struggling to get over your breakup. You loved him with all your heart. You guys were best friends. It’s been a long time. Now it feels like a part of your heart is missing.
Whether you’re the one who initiated it or the other way around, you can’t help but wish things didn’t fizzle out. However, in some cases, one person is more seemingly affected by it than the other. If you are reading this, chances are you are the more heartbroken one, and you want to get your relationship back on track and make things go back to how they were. But what to do or where to go?
The good news is that it’s not the end of the road for you. There are awesome, proven strategies that are sure to get your man back and make him insanely in love with you again, even if he has turned a deaf ear to your cries and efforts. It might seem like a daunting task, but it is easily doable with a bit of patience and understanding.
Read on to win your man back!
Make Sure You’re Really Ready Before Taking Him Back
We’ve all been there before: pining over an ex, trying to figure out how to make him fall in love with you again. But before you take your ex back, you need to be sure that you’re really ready for a relationship with him again. And you must also have the right reasons to make the right decision. If you’re not, then you might end up getting having a broken heart again.
Take some time to think about what went wrong in your last relationship and if you want to fix it. This means being emotionally and mentally prepared for a relationship again. After all, getting an ex to fall in love with you again is no easy feat.
You need to be in a good place before you can even think about taking your ex back. You need to be over the breakup and any anger or resentment you may feel. You should also be able to forgive him for whatever led to the breakup.
If you’re still determining if you’re really ready, it’s best to take some time to work on yourself first. Once you’re in a good place, then you can reach out to your ex and see if he’s interested in getting back together.
There also are a few things you can do to increase your chances of success.
How to Win Him Back After a Breakup
1. Understand Why He Left in the First Place
The first step to getting your man back is understanding why he fell out of love with you in the first place. This can be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s an essential step in the process. If you can figure out what caused the breakup, you’ll be in a much better position to make things right and get him back.
There could be a lot of reasons why he left, but it’s important to try to figure out the real reason. What was the cliff edge for him? Was there something you did that made him feel like he couldn’t trust you? Or was he just not ready for a serious relationship?
Once you know the reason why he left, you can start working on fixing things and making sure it doesn’t happen again. If you can show him that you’ve changed and that you’re willing to work on the relationship, he may be more open to giving things another try.
2. Give Him Space
One of the worst things you can do after a breakup is trying to force your way back into his life. He needs time to process what happened, and if you try to push yourself on him, it’s only going to push him away.
So what should you do? Give him space. Let him be the one to come to you, and in the meantime, focus on taking care of yourself. This may sound a little bit odd, but trust me, it works. You need to give him the space he needs to miss you.
I know it’s hard to do, especially if you’re still in love with him, but you need to act like you don’t care. Go out with your friends, have fun, and make sure he knows about it. Get out there, live your life, and let him see that you’re doing fine without him. The more he sees that you’re having a great time without him, the more he’ll realize what he’s missing. That’s how reverse psychology works! More about it later.
And trust me, the more he realizes what he’s missing, the more likely he’ll come running back to you. So if you want to make him fall in love with you again after a breakup, give him some space and let him come to you.
3. Don’t Try to Convince Him to Come Back
The key here is to avoid trying to convince him to come back. If you try to convince him, you’ll make things worse, and he will see you as desperate. Instead, let him decide on his own.
How do you do this? First, you need to accept the breakup. This doesn’t mean that you’re okay with it, but it does mean that you’re not going to try to fight it. Second, you need to give him space. This can be really hard, but it’s important. He needs time to miss you and realize what he’s lost.
Third, focus on yourself. This is the time to rediscover who you are and what you want out of life. When he sees how happy and fulfilled you are without him, he’ll start to wonder if he made a mistake. And finally, be patient. It might take some time, but eventually, he’ll come crawling back to you.
4. Don’t Try to Make Him Jealous
I know you might be thinking that making him jealous will light a fire under his butt, and he’ll come running back to you, but that’s not going to happen. In fact, trying to make him jealous is only going to push him further away.
Here’s the thing—he broke up with you for a reason. And if you try to make him jealous, you’re just going to remind him of that reason. He’s not going to want to come back to you if you’re constantly trying to make him jealous or if you’re trying to make his life difficult. Why anybody in the sane mind would?
So what should you do instead? Focus on yourself. Work on becoming the best version of yourself. Work on things he left for you. If you don’t know, simply ask him. He may or may not tell you, but it would b worth a shot. And it will also show him that you are willing to work.
Show him that you’re doing just fine without him and that you don’t need him to be happy. When he sees how happy and content you are without him, he’ll think maybe he did wrong breaking up or maybe he didn’t wanna miss out on you and the fun. He’s going to want to be a part of your life again.
5. Work on Rebuilding Trust
If you want him to fall in love with you again, you will need to work on rebuilding trust. And that means being honest with him about your feelings and being reliable and trustworthy yourself.
If you say you’re going to do something, do it. If you’re not sure about something, tell him. And be understanding if he’s not ready to open up to you just yet. He needs to be able to trust that you’re not going to hurt him again and that you’re in this for the long haul.
6. Don’t Try to Rush Things
You might be tempted to try and rush things along to get him to fall in love with you again, but that’s not necessarily the best approach. If you try to push too hard, you might end up pushing him away.
Give him some space and let him come to you on his own timetable. He’ll likely appreciate the break from you after the breakup, and it will give him a chance to miss you and realize how much he loves you.
In the meantime, the only thing you can do is reflect and re-evaluate your behavior, learn from your past relationship, and focus on improving yourself. Get out and do things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. The better you feel about yourself, the more likely it is that he’ll fall in love with you again when he does come back around.
7. Build Up the Sexual Tension
You need to make him want you bad, and one of the best ways to do that is by building up the sexual tension between you. This means that you need to flirt with him, touch him, and be close to him when you’re around him.
The key here is to do it in a way that doesn’t make it obvious that you’re trying to make him want you. You don’t want him to think that you’re easy or that you’re just trying to get into his pants.
Instead, you want him to think that there’s a possibility that something could happen between the two of you, but he’s not quite sure yet. This will get him thinking about you and make him want you even more.
If you want more tips on how to make a man want you bad, I have 19 sneaky ways right here!
8. Be Confident and Independent
Being confident and independent are two of the most important things you can do to make your ex boyfriend want you back. Men are attracted to women who are confident and can take care of themselves. If you’re needy and always relying on him to make you happy, he’s going to get sick of it and want to move on.
And how do you show him that you’re confident and independent?
For starters, don’t text him all the time or try to see him every day. Give him some space so he can miss you. Do you know that it takes 8 weeks for guys to miss you? Yes, that’s true! And it has legit reasons. So giving him those 8 weeks may increase your chances of being back together.
And when you do see him, don’t be clingy or dependent on him for attention or throw boring conversation starters his way. Be confident in yourself and your own ability to keep a conversation going.
Another great way to show him that you’re independent is by having your own hobbies and friends outside of your relationship with him. Don’t just revolve your entire life around him—make sure you have other things going on that make you happy. Meet new people, get out of your comfort zone, and get your mental health in place. When he sees that you’re a well-rounded person with a life outside of him, he’s going to be more likely to want you back.
9. Be Mysterious
You want to keep him guessing and on his toes. Be confident in yourself and your ability to make him happy (and that’ll happen when you’ll work on loving yourself first). When you are secure in yourself, it will come across in your interactions with him.
You don’t need to tell him everything about yourself and all that happened after the breakup right away. In fact, you should hold back some information so that he has something to discover about you later. This will keep the relationship fresh and exciting for both of you.
10. Get in Touch With Your Feminine Side
This may sound a little bit out there, but getting in touch with your feminine side can actually help you attract your ex-boyfriend back to you. I know it sounds crazy, but bear with me here because I have legit points!
When you were dating your ex, you may have been more in touch with your masculine energy—the qualities of being assertive, independent, and in control. But now that you’re trying to get him back, it’s time to start tapping into your feminine energy.
What are the qualities of feminine energy? They include being nurturing, compassionate, and receptive. You can start showing your ex that you have these qualities by reaching out to him and being supportive when he needs it.
For example, if he’s going through a tough time at work, offer to lend him a listening ear or make him dinner. These small gestures will go a long way in making him feel loved and appreciated—and more likely to want to get back together with you.
11. Get Back in Shape and Take Care of Yourself
You need to get back in shape and improve yourself mentally and physically if you want to make him fall in love with you again. This means eating right, exercising, dressing well, and taking care of yourself.
If you can glow up after a breakup, that would be brilliant! What’s better than making him regret leaving you in the first place?
In addition to getting back in shape, you should also take care of yourself emotionally. This means dealing with any baggage from your past relationships and learning to love yourself. I’m a firm believer that you have to love yourself first to love others.
You should also try to get rid of any bad habits that you have, such as smoking or anger issues.
Not only will this make you more attractive to your man, but it will also make you feel better about yourself. You might have a hard time at first, but trust me, it will all be worth it in the end.
If you can do these things, you’ll be in a much better position to get your man back.
12. Tease Him and Keep Things Fun
A little bit of lighthearted teasing can go a long way toward making him fall in love again after breakup. If you can make him laugh and show him that you’re still the same fun person he fell in love with, he’ll start to remember all the good times you had together. And that will make him start to miss you again. Isn’t that the goal?
13. Show Him What He’s Missing Out On
The next step is to show your ex what he’s missing out on. Make sure you’re looking your best and that you’re staying positive. You want him to see that you’re doing just fine without him and that you’re happy without him.
One way to do this is to post pictures of you having fun with your friends and looking gorgeous on your social media account. You can also talk about the fun things you’re doing in your life. Make sure you sound like you’re enjoying yourself and that you’re not sitting around moping about the breakup.
14. Play a little reverse psychology
What is that, you ask?
It’s doing things that can subtly encourage behavior or action from the other person without letting them know.
So how to make that work in winning your ex back?
People, especially men, will kill it to get things that they usually cannot get. May it be girls, shoes, or food. They’ll put in their 200% to get the unattainable.
So act like you don’t care about getting back together, even though you really do. If your ex thinks that you have completely moved on and are no longer interested in getting back together, they may start to realize how much they miss you and how good things used to be. They may begin to wonder if they made a mistake in breaking up with you in the first place.
Of course, there is always the risk that reverse psychology could backfire, so make sure you are prepared for that possibility as well. But if you use it sparingly and carefully, it can be a helpful tool in getting your ex to fall in love with you again after a breakup.
15. Make him feel that you need him
Sometimes, we women can have a tendency to try to do everything in the name of independence and strength. And indirectly, it may show the other person that we might not need them.
In the long run, it may keep on hurting the masculine energies of a man, making him feel like he is not needed in the relationship, which might make him pull away from the situation and your life.
You know how they say that a lion needs to feel from time to time that he is the king of the jungle. This doesn’t mean he needs to be dominating or aggressive to do that. It just means he needs to trigger those manly feelings inside of him.
So if you wanna start building a healthy relationship with him, try to make him feel needed. Show your ex that you can’t live without him and that you need his help and support. This doesn’t mean that you should be needy or clingy, but simply that you should include him in your plans and show him that you value his opinions and input.
For example, if you’re planning a road trip, ask him for advice on where to go and what to do. Or, if you’re considering a new style or look, bounce some ideas off of him.
Doing little things like these will make him feel like an important part of your life, and he’ll start to miss being with you when you’re not around. Before long, he’ll be head over heels in love with you again!
16. Be affectionate and loving
Men may show more than often that they are very strong physically and emotionally but are they really? In my book, men are human beings only with a heart and feelings. They might not show that often, but they do see and feel things. And even when social media makes us think that only girls are needed to be spoiled and pampered, the truth is that men need that too.
They need to be felt loved and cared for. They need to know that you’ll be standing by them no matter what. They need to see love and affection once in a while.
So, do small things to make him feel all of that. Maybe express your love for your ex in words and actions. Go drop a sweet message today. Or send some flowers to him.
Tell them how much you miss them and how much you want to be with them. Or even give them thoughtful gifts that show how much you care about them. Just try to be there for them when they need you.
Who knows, you might be able to get your lost love back.
17. Go down the memory lane
Beautiful memories are the only thing we live for. There has to be a phase in your relationship where things were perfect. They were sweet and happy. You guys used to travel, talk, and have fun.
So cherish and revisit those memories with him. Either text him how you miss all of that or use your favorite love song that always reminds you of him in your social media post. Reignite those feelings in him.
At last, don’t worry and let it go. If you and your ex are meant to be together, you guys will. If it genuinely is true love, it is going nowhere.
Signs That He’s Falling for You Again
Now that you know how to get him back, you must be wondering how to tell if you have won him back so that you stop the hard work.
Well, here are certain signs that will let you know whether or not he’s falling for you again:
1. He’s the one initiating contact.
2. He’s responsive to your texts and calls.
3. He’s interested in your life and asks follow-up questions.
4. You catch him looking at you when you’re not looking.
5. He brings up inside jokes and memories from when you were together.
6. He’s always around when you need him.
7. He’s trying to make a good impression on your friends and family.
8. He’s doing things to make you happy.
9. He’s being more communicative than he was during the breakup.
10. You feel like he’s falling for you all over again.
If you notice any of these signs, he’s starting to fall for you again. Take things slowly at first and see how he responds before you get your hopes up. If he seems receptive, let him know how you feel and see where things go from there.
Be Willing to Walk Away If things Don’t Workout
Finally, the thing you have to understand is that you can’t make someone love you. You can’t force someone to feel something they don’t. And if he doesn’t love you, then there’s nothing you can do about it.
What you can do, however, is be willing to walk away. Be willing to let go of the idea that this person is the one for you. Because if you’re not willing to walk away, then you’re never going to find someone who wants to be with you.
And that’s okay! There is plenty of other fish in the sea. You’ll find someone who loves you for exactly who you are. But first, you have to be willing to let go of the person who doesn’t. You know how they say, god always has bigger, better things planned for you.
Wrapping up how to make him fall in love again after breakup
So there you have it – everything you need to know about how to make him fall in love with you again after a breakup. The most important thing is to understand what went wrong in the relationship. If you can pinpoint the reason for the breakup, you’ll be in a much better position to fix things faster and easier.
Next, you need to make yourself irresistible to him. This may sound like a tall order, but it’s definitely doable if you put your mind to it. And finally, you need to be patient. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your relationship be rebuilt overnight. With time and effort, you can make him fall in love with you again.
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